I’ve once read many articles in a day about good habits and noted some superb point and practicable. Here we go..
1. Be a Good Communicator : If you want to be taken seriously by others in workplace you need to be a good communicator. If you are in the middle of meeting, that is your opportunity to take the ‘stage’ . Give your idea and voice it out. But you need to remember, choose your word carefully, be specific, and pay attention *most people are bad in paying attention, trained it* . If you don’t have anything nice to say about people, don’t bother saying anything at all *i have done many bad things on that and regret it, trust me, you need to developed ‘pause button’ in every words*. The last tips, listen to others (mean really listen). Sometimes, there’s gold to be found in gossip. You can get surprising fact or news in gossip. So build a new habit, make your ears stay alert even when you are working.
2. Exit Graciously: You need to learn, how to ending conversation. That’s hi personality person can do. Don’t make excuse to cut conversation *that’s impolite* . Then how i end the conversation? Making excuse are impolite and dishonest, instead you keep doing that, say thank you to other party for their time and make a farewell #respect #style #classy 😉
3. Know about life’s finer things: One day, i went out with my friend Audi Tangkudung (@odunkz) we chat a lot and at some point he stared me and said “What the hell happen with you in several weeks?, your talks so different, like 60 years old man, that’s a good thing indeed, but i’m just curios what happen?” Simply, i just made a new habit, read a book and learn about life’s finer things. What things? it can be everything, you like dancing? learn more about dancing, the fact, the story, history, famous dancer, etc. You like coffee? learn more about the taste, the type, fancy coffee shop, how to brew coffee, etc. The things can be everything. The successful man is a connoisseur, a bon vivant 😉 . Beside that, your knowledge of the finer things show class and culture. Hi personality person have a class, imagine, with you knowledge now, you met an ambassador or governor, maybe our legendary teacher Mr. Winarno. What will you talking about with him? Anything that make him interested? *get the point?* . The last tips from me, get some books, hit some museums, and get classy. Books and museums are the easiest way to looked classy. Our unconsciousness are improved when we read books and automatically spoken out when you get involved in conversation with people.
4. Have Good Manners: Previously, i really hate to being gentle. Only one lady can make me do like a gentleman at that time. My thought was, gentle is a fake. Boy’s only do that to attract girls. But that’s not true folks. If you want to be bon vivant you need to mastered good manners. There were many trick you can learn, such as table manner and ballroom dancing. But the most powerful is treating women *all woman, not only the pretty one* like a ladies (no need to give example here, that’s a secret :p). There were basic manners to follow in general
- Open the door for women
- Let others pass first
- Say “please” and “thank you”
- Look people in the eye when you talk to them (this is simple, but i have found many people can not do that, if they are talking with higher position level *that’s make you looked unconfident*)
- Don’t interrupt others *even when you are so excited*
- Don’t swear *you looked like peasant*
5. Be a public speaker: Our parents generation was a “baby boomer” generation and their generation was lack of presentation experience and public speaking. They know it and make a revolution in academy. Nowadays, our learning programs already attached with presentation and public speaking material. The program force you since you are a kid to stand in front of class and tell story or sing a kid’s song. When you are in high school, the programs force you to perform something *like group of band or dance* . The last, when you in a university, the faculty make many programs and also some organization make their own program with their own interest. The different with school is, in university, you free to do everything. The program or organization doesn’t force you to be active and force to do the public speaking. You need to be proactive by yourself. Helping your own self. It is your choice to be a good public speaker or only be a good “grades” academia. A good speaker is rare, and therefore always admired for his/her confidence and ease. Let’s take a looked when our faculty organize the appreciation night *one of awesome event so far* . Let’s make a comparison between Anavaliza Atmadja (@anavalizard) and Francisca Albertha (@f_albertha). Ana was chosen to be a spoke person *reading the nomination category and the nominator* the committee gave her opportunity to improve the conversation to be more casual but elegant. But what happen then? she looks cool but i don’t understand what she is trying to said *casual indeed, but aimless bahahhaha* . In the other way, Francisca Albertha was chosen as a nominator-the best public speaker category- *CMIIW* and she won the nomination. I know Francisca Albertha in student council committee, she had many experience in public speaking. For example, she is joining Debate Club, English Club, Francais course, and Student Council Committee. The best achievement that i know so far is, she is one of the winner of “Mapres; Mahasiswa Berprestasi” kinda Miss World event, but only between university student. So what make them looks different, they were in same high school *Santa Ursula, all are smart and pretty* , same faculty *biotechnology* , same famous *but anna looks more hipster* , both are very creative, both are 2009 and odd family *i love odd family ;)*. What differs is, Anna spent more time in social life and fashion things *life’s finer thing* and make her kinda superstar. Maybe Anna is flawless when she talk one by one, she can perfectly inspire in little group or single person, but if in the crowd…. flawed bahahaha. But Bertha, spent more time in organization, language, and competition. That’s make her mental very strong *she joined Everest too* and so perfect in public speaking. Both of them are mastered in their own finer things. But can you imagine, if you can be a superstar like Anna and best public speaker like Bertha. You can have it both. Maybe you know Bamma Elshaddai – He is become FTb mascot. Bamma did well in social life and his confidence to do public speaking. Everyone knows him and had enough confidence to do public speaking. But he lack of “finer thing” . So now you know what to do?
6. Have a Positive Attitude : Be a well of inspiration and show that you’re confident and in control of your destiny. Inspire others with your idea *how? sit and talk you muggles*.
So quite being the guy who always worries and sad face. Worrying gets nothing done. But smiling being a source of pleasure.
7. Dress Well : Your physical appearance is the first thing people see, and the first thing that they judge you on. Many people said, don’t judge a book by it’s cover. For me, that not always true. Do you remember a story about an old man want to put many stone in a hole, he had big rock, pebbles, and the sand. So what will he do? for smart people, you will put the big rock first, the pebbles, and the sand. Because if you put the sand and the pebbles first, they will no enough space for the big rock. But how about the event was changed, the old man want to dig the hole? What will he do?, he do the opposite! We need to pull out the small rock first than the big one. We can not move the big one, if we are not cleaning it first from the small one. So its all depends on the event. For appearance you need to suit up and looks tidy. One of the secret of happiness is dress well *that’s true* you must be happy if you are wearing a good outfits rite mates? 😉
So good luck and i really hope, i can interact with my readers. Don’t to shy to mention me in twitter. I will reply it unless your tweet offended me. Let’s sit and making friend 🙂
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